Emotions are central to how we identify, perceive, experience, and process aspects of ourselves and our lives. We feel our own emotions and quite often other people’s emotions when they bubble over into our lives. If any of you have children, namely teenage daughters, then you probably know intimately the emotional ups and downs your kids experience daily, and let’s face it, sometimes within minutes. I have been exhausted myself trying to keep up or even keep straight the emotional whirlwind my daughter occasionally goes through.
Of course, we often go through the whirlwind with them, supporting and validating their emotional experiences. Trying to understand why our emotions send us spiraling down or up, as well as the people around us is rather bewildering at times. I can be perfectly relaxed and happy, then my kid gets home and without even seeing her come in the door, I know things are about to get heavy. Trying to stay calm while your kid goes through the ringer can be really hard. Sometimes, I feel like I went through the ringer even though I wasn’t anywhere near the drama.
Distress as well as many other emotions are palpable as if the emotions themselves are another presence in the room. One of the reasons we feel emotions in a room is that emotions are energy. Each one of our emotions has a particular frequency, or vibration. For instance, shame is 20 Hz – essentially death is the next level down. Fear is 100 Hz, reason is about 400 Hz, and peace equals ~600 Hz. The higher the vibration of our emotions, the better we feel. So, when we are flying high on emotion, we are literally lifting up our vibration, which alleviates stress, pain, and a whole host of other conditions.
So, what is it about the higher emotional vibrations that helps us do so much better physically?
All living things are composed of matter. Matter has substance and occupies space. Matter is atoms and molecules that bond energetically to one another. More to the point, matter is particles – very dense energy. It is comprised of positively charged protons, neutral neutrons, and negatively charged electrons. Humans, like all matter, are just very dense energy. We are in fact each of us an energy system that has its own “electrical grid” running throughout it. We are a system just like the planets and stars and galaxies that is governed by rules as to how energy acts.
Our own bodies’ energies follow the same rules as planetary and stellar energy though that certainly isn’t something that we think about. Our bodies contain molecules and atoms that engage in energy exchanges, both within and without because we aren’t closed systems. In other words we concurrently bring in energy and release energy all the time. Our atoms and molecules form and break apart in preprogrammed cycles as well as from what we take in (i.e. food) or unexpectedly from injury or trauma, which includes emotional and mental traumas.
These energy exchanges behave in certain ways. Electrons, neutrons, and protons determine the types of atomic and molecular bonds that form in our bodies because the energy in the atoms has certain ways that it “acts.” Ionic bonds occur between two atoms when one atom “gives” an electron to another atom and the second atom dumps one of its electrons. The first atom then gains the dumped electron from the outer valence shell, and both atoms become stable. Covalent bonds are when atoms share pairs of electrons in the valence shell, again resulting in more stability. What is so fascinating is that the energy is most stable under certain conditions. Ionic and covalent bonds are more robust than under other conditions. It is the energy present during the bond formation that affects the robustness of the “connection” between atoms and molecules.
When high vibrations are present, energetic bonds are stronger and more stable between and among atoms or molecules. There are in fact a plethora of studies about the impact of surrounding energies on the bonds formed between atoms or molecules. Physics and quantum physics analyses, which include Dr. Matsura Emoto’s water experiments, have really allowed us to gain a deeper insight into the human condition. These experiments help us to better understand how energy is at work in our own systems and the systems with which we interact and to which we are connected, for instance our families (significant other, parents, children, siblings), our homes, our work (the work itself, the work environment, and our coworkers). Anywhere we frequent and people with whom we spend time all impact us. We talk about this impact all the time in terms of emotions – how someone, something, some place makes us feel and even where we feel it.
For instance, we say a space feels cold, exposed, creepy or homey, warm, and welcoming. We describe people as standoffish, cold, mean, unkind versus open and caring. We frequently discuss our responses to places, people, and things: I feel sick to my stomach whenever I think about that day at the lake. I felt hot under the collar when he said I was stupid. That song gives me chills.
Plus, of course, there is how we ourselves feel at the time of the exchange that affects our perceptions. If we are in a “good place,” then our reaction to the person, place or thing is generally more positive than when we are in a “bad place.” We watch exchanges play out between and among people. We see how more “positive,” uplifted people, who are warm, welcoming, and open, attract people more than closed off people. In fact we talk about closed off people in terms of walled off, it’s like talking to a wall, or there’s a wall between us.
We have a gigantic vocabulary to discuss emotions – how we feel; words that resound across cultures, societies, and even time. These words are ones we have used for centuries, and they are words we all understand on a visceral level. They are words that connect us to one another and words that shape how we feel about ourselves, other people, places, and things. Our emotional languaging allows us to tap into a wealth of shared energetic experiences because the words themselves are energy. They are imbued with energy, and it is this energy that impacts how we feel in our bodies, in our daily exchanges with others, and in how we experience our lives emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Positivity feels good. Positive words feel good. We feel good not only emotionally when we are peaceful, happy, joyful, and loving/loved, but physically and mentally as well. The energy that we are holding within us; this positively impactful, vibrational energy determines so much in our lives. Putting out “good vibes” isn’t just a figure of speech; we are literally putting out vibrations when we think, speak, and feel, which affects our interactions with everything and everyone, including our relationship with ourselves.